I didn't. I was definitely more idealistic when I was 20. Do I live on the same principles and ideals I had then? Nope. Did I make statements that I disagree with now, of course, i did.
However, I did not make any statements that involved hurting others. I had enough self-awareness not to leverage other people's emotions or use others for my own personal gain. Also, if I did, I did not expect or do not expect to be let off because I was just 20.
TAA was 20, not 12.
The thing is, he shouldn't be able to hurt you, and he isn't. That's on you.