Sheik Yerbouti said:Paddy said:I dont get along well at all with my Father. Quite depressing really. And he is a Scum fan as well.
Haha.
Come here Paddy.
I'll be your daddy.
*Runs to the Sheik*
Sheik Yerbouti said:Paddy said:I dont get along well at all with my Father. Quite depressing really. And he is a Scum fan as well.
Haha.
Come here Paddy.
I'll be your daddy.
Rosco said:I'm just wondering who the soft lad was that logged in as me the other night.
*scratches head*
Paddy said:Rosco said:I'm just wondering who the soft lad was that logged in as me the other night.
*scratches head*
The Sheik. He is so childish.
Whats going on here then?Rosco said:I'm just wondering who the soft lad was that logged in as me the other night.
*scratches head*
Milner said:Whats going on here then?Rosco said:I'm just wondering who the soft lad was that logged in as me the other night.
*scratches head*
Excellent stuffRosco said:Milner said:Whats going on here then?Rosco said:I'm just wondering who the soft lad was that logged in as me the other night.
*scratches head*
That was me after being in a battle cruiser for a few hours. I think I had an epiphany.
I've lost the plot of whats happening.Rosco said:Why would you be out of your depth ?
Rosco said:Paddy said:Rosco said:I'm just wondering who the soft lad was that logged in as me the other night.
*scratches head*
The Sheik. He is so childish.
Good call Paddy.
Can't trust those bloody Arabs . :wink:
Asim said:Iv enjoyed reading this thread and makes me think a little re the South Asians who migrated to the UK, many of the dads ended up working long long hours to support the family. The mum's rarely worked for a number of reasons including cultural norms, to ensure the kids were fed and clothed many of the dads spend 12 plus hours a day working.
My dad being one of those, he moved away from his home leaving behind mum and kids while he worked and saved for a house. When we were together as a family dad would work mainly manual labour jobs to earn a living. I hardly ever saw him as a child as I remember and moved out basically (even though it was only across town) when I was 16, meaning I saw even less of him.......anyway wont bore you lot with the rest of it but neither my bro nor me have a great relationship with dad mainly cos we hardly talked, If I was a little younger I may resent him for it but it makes me think. He sacrificed pretty much his whole life for the sake of his children and his siblings (as he is the oldest of the brothers, he ended up setting them on their feet also).
I dont have the best realtionship with him still as when I do try and talk to him he just nods or mumbles but I should stay patient with him as his sacrifice will God wiling mean I have a better chance and so more time to spend with my children and hopfully a better relationship with them.
Milner said:I get on with my Mum (although she drives me mad) as well, although Mums don't seem to be involved with this thread sadly. I suppose it'll always be the case of mums and daughters and dads and sons.
Paddy said:Sheik Yerbouti said:Paddy said:I dont get along well at all with my Father. Quite depressing really. And he is a Scum fan as well.
Haha.
Come here Paddy.
I'll be your daddy.
*Runs to the Sheik*
Milner said:although Mums don't seem to be involved with this thread sadly. .
Herr Onceared said:Milner said:although Mums don't seem to be involved with this thread sadly. .
Indeed,
A shout out to my ma, who is one of my best friends in the world.
She raised me on her own in the most part, and never complained. She was loving caring and taught me a fine sense of values.
She never gave me a bedtime, she let me swear, she didnt discipline me, she just let me fuck up and then talked through what i could have done differently.
She is a left wing pot smoking old fuckin hippy, and the world would have been a much MUCH worse place if she hadnt been in it.
Oh and she gave me as a gift, Bob Dylan, The Beatles, Tom Waits, the Marx Brothers, Frank Zappa, Vincent Van Gough, Van Morrison, Monet, Shakespeare, The Doors, The Stones, The Kinks, Humphry Bogart, The Titanic, Jack the Ripper, Turner, Gurnica, The Singing Detective, Pennies from Heaven, Gershwin, Cotes de Rhone, Creedence, Frank Sinatra, Elvis Presley, Alexandre Dumas, JRR Tolkien, Citizen Smith, MASH, Bukowski, Fawlty Towers, Bobby Darin, Cassius Clay, Pot, The Fabulous Furry Freek brothers, Toulouse Latrec, The Buzzcocks, The Clash, James Ellroy, Henry Fonda, Jimmy Stewart, Joni Mitchell, John Martyn, Upstairs Downstairs, 24, Jeanie C Riley, Doowop, John Coltrane, Behan, Marvin Gaye, Ivan Lendl, Metro Goldwyn Mayer and hope.
Anita said:Herr Onceared said:Milner said:although Mums don't seem to be involved with this thread sadly. .
Indeed,
A shout out to my ma, who is one of my best friends in the world.
She raised me on her own in the most part, and never complained. She was loving caring and taught me a fine sense of values.
She never gave me a bedtime, she let me swear, she didnt discipline me, she just let me fuck up and then talked through what i could have done differently.
She is a left wing pot smoking old fuckin hippy, and the world would have been a much MUCH worse place if she hadnt been in it.
Oh and she gave me as a gift, Bob Dylan, The Beatles, Tom Waits, the Marx Brothers, Frank Zappa, Vincent Van Gough, Van Morrison, Monet, Shakespeare, The Doors, The Stones, The Kinks, Humphry Bogart, The Titanic, Jack the Ripper, Turner, Gurnica, The Singing Detective, Pennies from Heaven, Gershwin, Cotes de Rhone, Creedence, Frank Sinatra, Elvis Presley, Alexandre Dumas, JRR Tolkien, Citizen Smith, MASH, Bukowski, Fawlty Towers, Bobby Darin, Cassius Clay, Pot, The Fabulous Furry Freek brothers, Toulouse Latrec, The Buzzcocks, The Clash, James Ellroy, Henry Fonda, Jimmy Stewart, Joni Mitchell, John Martyn, Upstairs Downstairs, 24, Jeanie C Riley, Doowop, John Coltrane, Behan, Marvin Gaye, Ivan Lendl, Metro Goldwyn Mayer and hope.
That's such a lovely post.
I do love how you're such a softy Oncy!
"Avmenon" said:would I be happier if my Dad told me he loved me?
no, some things are shown and not said.
I don't doubt that for a minute. Do you think though that you Dad (everyones Dad for that matter) would be happier for you telling him how much you loved him?
Just a thought
darkstarexodus said:Single, that was a great and interesting read. Reminded me a lot of my ex's family. She's half-Japanese, on her mom's side, and her mom was always cold and distant with her and her grandparents on that side were loving but also very critical and at times demeaning.
Her parents split a few years ago for a variety of reasons, incl. because her mom was addicted to prescription medications and had tried to kill herself on at least one occasion and was basically a nutjob even before that. My ex was estranged from that entire side of the family for a couple years and did not talk with her mom at all. She's now back in touch with most of the family but, at least as of when we broke up six months ago, still did not talk to her mom and brother. She lived with her dad, who has just remarried to a South American.
"the count" said:Avmenon said:would I be happier if my Dad told me he loved me?
no, some things are shown and not said.
I don't doubt that for a minute. Do you think though that you Dad (everyones Dad for that matter) would be happier for you telling him how much you loved him?
Just a thought
i would,and i'm sure he would too.
bit hard tho after 34 years.
singlerider said:No matter what, people should always stay in touch with their folks IMO.
"Avmenon" said:"the count" said:Avmenon said:would I be happier if my Dad told me he loved me?
no, some things are shown and not said.
I don't doubt that for a minute. Do you think though that you Dad (everyones Dad for that matter) would be happier for you telling him how much you loved him?
Just a thought
i would,and i'm sure he would too.
bit hard tho after 34 years.[/quote]
I know how hard it can be. It took me till my dad was in terminal decline, semi conscious and in the final stages of alzheimer's until I I told him i loved him. (I am forty two and this was only six months ago) I don't know if he understood what I was saying and most likely due to his illness it didn't made any difference to him at all. It made a hell of a difference to me though and has helped make his passing considerably easier to handle I think.
To be honest I am disappointed that i didnt tell him years ago. If I had told him during his health I believe it would have improved our relationship no end.
I feel a bit of a fraud dishing out all this advice when it took me so long to do so but better late than never.
the count said:I know how hard it can be. It took me till my dad was in terminal decline, semi conscious and in the final stages of alzheimer's until I I told him i loved him. (I am forty two and this was only six months ago) I don't know if he understood what I was saying and most likely due to his illness it didn't made any difference to him at all. It made a hell of a difference to me though and has helped make his passing considerably easier to handle I think.
To be honest I am disappointed that i didnt tell him years ago. If I had told him during his health I believe it would have improved our relationship no end.
I feel a bit of a fraud dishing out all this advice when it took me so long to do so but better late than never.
LeTallecWiz said:the count said:I know how hard it can be. It took me till my dad was in terminal decline, semi conscious and in the final stages of alzheimer's until I I told him i loved him. (I am forty two and this was only six months ago) I don't know if he understood what I was saying and most likely due to his illness it didn't made any difference to him at all. It made a hell of a difference to me though and has helped make his passing considerably easier to handle I think.
To be honest I am disappointed that i didnt tell him years ago. If I had told him during his health I believe it would have improved our relationship no end.
I feel a bit of a fraud dishing out all this advice when it took me so long to do so but better late than never.
You're not a 'fraud' - You're offering friendly advice after learning from your 'mistakes'.
I was walking with some mates in the Desert a few years ago and I looked at my watch, and started crying. I had realized that it was 5 years since my nonnou (grandfather) had passed. I was very very attached to the man and I loved him dearly. I wrote this passionate e-mail to my dad when I returned home explaining to him how much I loved him etc (I've always told him this, but in the context of my pain, I thought I would share) and he replied to me with something along the lines of: I only wish I was as open with my dad as you are with me, for I know when I pass, you won't feel the pain that eats at me all the time ...